How To Get Kids To Listen Effectively

By Carolyn Long


When children are developing, both emotionally and on a physical level, parents often find that there is a lot to learn about their kids. One of the things that they struggle with is how to get kids to listen to what they are saying. However, one must remember that there are certain techniques to use. Parents will, therefore become less frustrated.

It is easy for a child to become distracted because of the fact that there is so much going on around them. Parents may become annoyed, but one has to realize that this is what happens with the average child. When a child is focusing on an activity, they often become immersed in what they are doing that they don't become distracted by the outside world.

When they are busy with something, such as an art project, they become completely engaged in it. They forget about what is going on within the home environment. They switch off to everything else, and parents don't always realize this. It is important for parents to connect with their child gently and make sure that they are listening before they actually start talking to them.

You have to connect with them so that they don't feel intimidated. When they are very busy with something, an order or command will often go through one ear and out the other. You need to be able to connect with the. This will also create a stronger bond. You can do this by touching them, and making eye contact.

It is also important not to exercise that sense of control or power over your child. A lot of parents have authority and children grow up becoming fearful of authority figures. Parents will just tell their kids to do as they say. You should be ready for a response. When a child questions an order or command, you need to come back with a reasonable answer.

There should be no control or power in the relationship because this will also create fear. Kids will start to listen to the adult, but it is not the right way to go about it. It will weaken the bond and they will grow up with psychological issues. They may find that that fear creeps in when they are exposed to authority figures in their life.

One can become impatient at times when children don't listen to what you are saying. You must realize that this is part of the development process and you need to stay calm. Take a deep breath and remember that if you start to become upset and raise your voice, the situation is only going to become worse.

Some children who have attention deficit disorder will also battle to listen. This can also cause impatience on the part of the parent. Kids will be so busy talking, that they don't have the chance to listen to their parent. They are filled with energy that they need to burn off. It is best that a parent learns how to cope with this.




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